I have a co-worker that I absolutely adore, in part because of the way she makes me laugh. After having lunch with her, my sides ache and my stomach hurts. As painful as this sounds, laughing that hard is a bright spot in my day, and when she isn't around, I'm the lesser for it.
Everyone loves to laugh. We may not like jokes, which--more often than not--tend to be more awkward than funny, but I've never met anyone who doesn't enjoy a good giggle.
The rewriting process isn't a barrel of laughs, but I have one beta reader who softens criticism by using his sense of humour. It's been almost a year (for shame!) since he sent me his comments on Dragonfly Summer, but reading through them was a joy (even though they meant more work for me), because they made me laugh.
An example of my editor's commentary: Is Jack wearing lace panties or boxer briefs? (His way of saying this male character is sounding more like a woman.) Or, my favorite: Did Amanda turn into a medicine man? (This isn't the way people talk in real life. Too dramatic.)
My boss also uses humor to soften the less-than-pleasant messages he needs to get across, such as in the report he sent to his department before his vacation. He titled it, What? You are taking a vacation NOW?, and included instructions for what to do if:
- You think your hair is on fire
- You know your hair is on fire
- A UFO lands on the Planetarium and kidnaps some of the staff
When you use humor in a critique, you're taking a risk. Humor can be highly subjective, and if the person is very sensitive or unused to having their work critiqued, they might think you're making fun of them. But if you suspect that it will have a positive response, or if it's just in your nature to be funny, go for it.
When I slip into a narrative, expository voice, I'd rather read "Too much Bill Kurtis" than "This sucks! Boring!" But maybe that's just me.
Rewrites suck in general. A little humor can go a long way.
Have you ever used humor to soften a sharp message? Or have you appreciated a humorous critique? Please share...we can all use a good laugh.